“Lazy loading is a design pattern commonly used in computer programming to defer initialization of an object until the point at which it is needed. It can contribute to efficiency in the program's operation if properly and appropriately used.”
Can we use a software design pattern in our daily lives to help us become more emotionally efficient? It's a technique I have been practicing over the past four months and it has drastically improved my emotional quality of mind.
Problems that most of us face include worry and doubt. A contrarian viewpoint might agree that worry, anxiety, doubt – these are all signs of “good stress” or, Eustress. We all need a small pilot light lit under our ass every so often. It allows us to constantly recalibrate the pain and pleasure centers of our brain. With that said, we need to make sure the “pilot light” doesn't turn into a roaring brush fire. We can extinguish these flaming stressors with things like exercise, meditation or hell, even a shot of Jack, but what happens when these emotions come to fruition at a time or place in which we have limited or no control over the remedy? The answer is to Lazy load!
There will be times when suddenly, without warning, worry and doubt will rear their ugly heads. A technique we can use is simply acknowledging the stressor, accepting it and most importantly offloading it with the understanding that we will reload this emotion at a later time, often times with a better understanding and with more rationale. Letting the emotion go can be difficult, but with the mindful intuition that we will “reload” this emotion, problem or task at a later time allows our brain to accept the conviction that we will “deal” with the obstacle when we are better prepared.
"I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened." ― Mark Twain
How many times have you worried about a problem when only to find out that it doesn't affect you in any way shape or form? With Lazy Loading, we can also help mitigate useless worry. We let the reigns loose a bit and hold off on trying to control every outcome.