Dynamic change early in the developmental process is of course met with resistance. As infants, when we go from our mother's warm bosom into our cold crib, we cry. As graduating eighteen year olds, we go off to a new, unknown college or we get kicked out of the house, forced to bootstrap ourselves into functioning adults. As working adults, we are awakened by obnoxious alarm clocks only to roll out of our warm bed into the cold world. Even our elders have a distain for change. A fear of a changing times. A fear of millennials and their lack of respect for authority.
Change is sometimes dreadful, right?
Here are some thoughts as to why we should AlwaysBeChanging.
Here's a quote from Alan Watts:
“Everybody should do in their lifetime, sometime, two things. One is to consider death. To observe skulls and skeletons and to wonder what it will be like to go to sleep and never wake up— never. That is a most gloomy thing for contemplation. It’s like manure. Just as manure fertilizes the plants and so on, so the contemplation of death and the acceptance of death is very highly generative of creating life. You’ll get wonderful things out of that.”
I would suggest everyone take a weekend and walk into the unknown. Start to see the other side of the fence, even if you fundamentally disagree. Experiment in arguing against life's deepest questions. What is life? Why are we here? What are we here for? This will allow you to focus on bigger questions. We then begin to step out of our social constructs we have subconsciously built. There are a couple of one-off and daily practices that you can take up in order to begin thinking at this capacity.
- Meditation (daily) - allows us to step out of the default mode network. It quiets the mind and corrals the feedback loop of perpetual thought.
- Psilocybin (one off) - in moderation, allows us to think at scale. Forces us to consider death and changes our biggest perceptions and habituals.
- Social Experiments (daily or one-off) - such as asking for a free cup of coffee at Starbucks. Negotiating things that are thought as "nonnegotiable"
Action Creates Action
What most of us see as luck, I see as action.
As someone who does not have a belief in ideas such as karma or universal order, I perceive luck as simply every point in time and how they meet. Luck to me is when two points meet in a somewhat orthogonal direction. Action, on the other hand, I perceive as building a dam into a river altering it's flow. There is a process, a common goal and steps of pragmatic action. If you struggle with getting up out of bed in the morning or if you struggle with getting a raise in your current job, then I suggest taking action. Build a dam don't wait for the river to alter itself.
Now this is quite a common viewpoint of most Americans. Squeaky wheel gets the grease right? But why don't we act on our intuitions and take that first step? Because we are comfortable, that's why. If your job is mundane, busy bee work, then creativity lacks. You need to get out, or find another position that allows your brain to think creatively. If not, you will be sucked in to the endless Volcun mind meld of 9 to 5 lethargy.
Is your only focus at the workplace to go unnoticed? Is it to simply fly under the radar and walk the path of least resistance? If so, then you are a conformist and you should get out before you fall victim to said 9 to 5 lethargy. It will (if not already) harm your ego and self esteem. You will not be able to think for yourself. No opinions means no voice, no change. Are you accommodating to everyone else? You have to give yourself the right to take up a larger footprint. Take up some more space in this world. you deserve it.
Taking the first step
One of the best things you can do for yourself if you feel stuck is to look around. Open your eyes to unreachable possibilities. Engage with the people and understand their value to the world. Try to replicate that over and over. This type of practice creates action, and the dominoes will start to fall.
One of the best things you can do for your career is pick up a book. Commit yourself to learning something and stop worrying about the minutia of all the ways you will fail. Same goes for life. The best thing you can do is just that, "do".